Duggar: Pedophile

A person can't stop being a pedophile. They can't. As of right now, in medicine, there is no known cure for the mental disorder that is pedophilia. Praying may help a person to never become an offender, or- if it's too late for that- to restrain from offending again, but it is a life long struggle. Seriously. Just ask admitted pedophiles. Non-offenders that own their illness and try to seek help for it. They do exist. Really: http://www.upworthy.com/this-19-year-old-pedophile-has-never-gone-near-a-child-and-he-needs-you-to-hear-his-story?g=2 And it's something they have to work at everyday. Most decide to avoid parenthood- for obvious reasons. Even though they'd like to be parents, they decide it's best to choose a different path. Unfortunately these individuals do not get half as much help as they need. Even the most advanced psychiatry shies away from these people. Bad choice. If we helped these people we could plug the problem at the source. Instead their offending counter-parts get all of our attention. We hate them. They disgust us. What they do or have done makes our skin crawl. And for good reason. Even in prison, they are more the most hated and preyed upon inmates. We as a community have decided that this, child rape and molestation, is the MOST heinous of all crimes. Okay. So why aren't we trying to stop it by treating the source? If we'd demystify this topic, stop hating and start researching, then potentially it would be easier for individuals (usually male, but not always) to seek help before they offend. The limited research that has been done tells us that pedophilic tendencies start to emerge during puberty. The average age is about 13, but we all know it's a spectrum. These kids find themselves confused at first, not realizing that they may have a problem. Because they are 13 being attracted to 10 year olds doesn't seem that far off. It's when their age increases and their subjects' ages decrease that the problem becomes clearer. Unfortunately then there is too much self-disgust and fear to say anything to anyone. Even a licensed psychiatrist. Most psychiatrists won't take these people as patients. How exactly is that helping anyone? It doesn't. Most especially it puts our children at risk. Because someone with a closet case is a dangerous individual. Having not fully accepted themselves, how can they fully control themselves? Not talking about this issue pragmatically and medically is hurting us all. I imagine this is what this Josh Duggar experienced as a teenager. And in such a severely religious family, where exactly could he turn with these urges? His victims. And that's what happens. And, usually, keeps happening. What is sickening about this case is that everyone seems more concerned about the fate of the television show then the girls, now I'm assuming young women, that Duggar molested. (pause) I'm sorry, I couldn't write for a second. My stomach was turning. Whatever the Duggar's, Josh included, would like to believe, he is NOT cured, or over this illness. It isn't some teenage thing that just goes away. A teenager developing a healthy sex drive is, excuse my crudeness, jerking off to photos (or videos) of grown women, not little girls. This isn't just a THING that disappears with prayer, penitence OR a summer spent doing landscaping work for family friends. That man, Josh Duggar, needs a specialist. That whole family does (because they obviously have not accepted the severity of their son's/brother's/HUSBANDS/FATHERS) condition. That's a REAL BIG PROBLEM. This is must bigger then some stupid show. And the idea that TLC has any choice but to cancel this show is crazy in itself. I don't know why anyone would even ask. Reality TV has been harsh on other stars like Paula Dean and The Duck Dynasty Folks (and their offenses weren't as bad as child molestation) as well as the Honey Boo Boo clan. This show is good and canceled folks. And it should be. Because a family that uses God, Christianity and conservatism as a smoke screen for defending child molestation is NOT a family that deserves a television show. What on God's earth was that dumb-ass Huckabee thinking? Does he want everyone to stop voting conservative for all eternity? Why doesn't he pay Sandusky a couple prison visits while he's at it? Put some money on his commissary. That guy is an idiot. Beyond the mess in the press though, much more importantly, we have to start dealing with molestation like adults instead of scared and hateful children. If we allow the psychiatric community to conduct the research it needs to really start treating this illness, we could save a lot of innocent kids, who deserve better from all of us. Getting back to my biggest concern: the victims- I believe children who are raped and/or molested that have parents or surrounding adults that instead defend or protect the perpetrator are the ones that will most likely grow up to be adults with permanent mental issues of their own. Just imagine, your older brother creeps into your room at night and feels your private parts but your parents defend him. And what exactly did the Duggars do for their victimized daughters? For the other girls that their son attacked? There hasn't been any discussion of this, AT ALL! BUT THAT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT PART!!! What?! Why?! How?! has this slipped everybody's interest? Oh God. We all need serious help. A MUST READ- the link is in the body of the blog above but it's too important to not list again: the most unique and I would argue important report on this topic created to date: http://www.upworthy.com/this-19-year-old-pedophile-has-never-gone-near-a-child-and-he-needs-you-to-hear-his-story?g=2 Helpful links on this topic by people who are better writers then I am: (MSN Entertainment) http://www.cnn.com/2015/05/21/us/josh-duggar-child-molestation-allegations/ (CNN- Dana Ford) http://www.cnn.com/2015/05/22/politics/josh-duggar-molestation-2016-conservatives/index.html (Mike Huckabee) (CNN, Politics - Alexandra Jaffe)